So why does black then correlate to people with a darker skin color and white to people with a brighter skin color? Where does it stop, where does it start? You say this is a straw man argument. Yet, it is not.
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No. I am a woman. I stumble upon a lot of things which are intended to be good for us. Like always using a female and a male phrase of a word all the time. This interrupts the flow of reading and just creates friction. I, as a woman, do not gain anything from this. It is not the same but still similar to some extend.
It is more than a simple change. It is on the order of being able to break virtually all external user scripts. I would not like to say that this is nothing. Yes, users can adapt their scripts. Yet it is a distraction and breaking something without any striving need to.
Seriously, this is the straw man argument. I am with you about "John". However, you are currently depriving black people of their names. I don't know where you live but over here we call black people by their names. They may be called Daniel or Susan. I would never call them "Mr. Black". So your argument is entirely void. Their name is not abused for anything.
This discussion has to come to an end. And this does not mean something needs to be changed. I know a lot of black people and I'm not 100% white myself. I discussed this issue with my friends and even partially (disconnected to Pi-hole) with family members and they feel no issues at all with blacklists and similar terms. However, they feel really bad with all the people coming out of the woodwork and patronizing for them. Telling that using the term "black" is not good. Some say because it is racist. Some say it is something from the past. Yet, nobody can understand our feelings. At least nobody involved in this discussion trying to patronize yet again with a wall-of-text of why they think the world can be made better in this and that direction.
And, please, this has nothing to do with the black-live-matters debate. The United States of Whitemerica have entirely different problems which are entirely unrelated here.
Seriously, it is just really annoying. Nobody seems to understand that it is the continuous discussion about what the white men can do for the black men that is the problem here. We could very well speak up for ourselves if we would have to.